The Power of We

One of the core techniques I love for improving relationships is switching from “You” statements to “I” statements when working through a challenge. This helps avoid defensiveness and usually leads to a happier outcome.

On a recent Daily Jay meditation (the Calm App), Jay Shetty suggested a move to “we.” I found this fascinating.

His argument was that by approaching the conversation from a place of “we/us” there is an instant sense of teamwork. It offers both parties the feeling of not being in the situation alone. It also encourages a resolution since both participants want a win. Brilliant!

One of my teachers has suggested that this time of human evolution is a move to prioritizing relationships. The “accumulation” we seek becomes the connections we’ve built, not the amount of money or stuff we’ve gathered. A clear theme that shows up in Moana.

This makes a lot of sense to me. After all, no matter how we may wish we weren’t all on this Earth “ship” together, the truth is we are.

So, learning how to relate to each other from a place of curiosity and compassion seems essential doesn’t it? Perhaps beginning to think in terms of “we” can help.